Wedding Day Drama And How To Deal With It
Good olllll’ drama. It seems to rear it’s ugly head at most events in some form or another, and weddings are no exception. Luckily there are ways to control the wedding day drama without having it ruin your night. Click play to hear some of my kick ass suggestions on how to keep the peace without having to kick some ass!
Ahhh drama. It seems to rear it’s ugly head at most events in some form or another, and weddings are no exception.
I mean, what is it about weddings that can sometimes bring out the worst in some people? From complaining about where they’ve been seated to why they weren’t chosen for the bridal party, voicing their ‘concerns’ about the bride and groom to sipping a little too much of the bubbly and making an ass out of themselves, there are a lot of different ways for drama to make it’s grand entrance into your special day.
Luckily, there are ways to control it and keep the peace so that everyone can go back to gettin’ their dance on to some good ol’ 90′s hip hop.
Booze And A Short Fuse
Everyone who has ever had one of ‘those’ nights where you might have had one too many and let your emotions get the best of you, knows that booze and a short fuse do not mix. Unfortunately, some guests may let this happen on the one night you would prefer they keep themselves in check.
If you spot one of your guests getting a little too loose, you see their angry face starting to creep out, or they are starting to get a little aggressive, it’s best to stop it in it’s tracks.
But not you yourself. Hell no. In this sort of situation, where you are celebrating you and your hubby, ask one of your close friends, or even your father, uncle, or close family friend to rationally go over and speak to the person and calmly try to diffuse the situation.
Consider asking them to take the person outside for some air, or if it’s an outdoor wedding to go for a short walk. That way you remove the person from the problem and give them time to cool off with someone who is viewing the situation from an outsider’s perspective.
If this doesn’t fix the problem and your guest continues to cause a scene or become more enraged you may, unfortunately, have to ask them to leave. It’s not the most ideal situation, in fact it’s downright uncomfortable, but would you rather have that person’s drama take centre stage or would you prefer you and your new husband command the spotlight?
I know it’s probably the last thing you want to do, but in case you are worried about harming that relationship by having to ask the person to leave, don’t be. Ultimately they were the one who caused the problem that got them booted, so stand firm in your decision, enjoy your night and command that spotlight girl.
It’s Not All About Them
Again, I’m not sure if it’s the booze or maybe just the general excitement of the day, but sometimes our guests get confused thinking the night is actually about them.
I have girlfriends who have had friends of theirs come up to them during the dinner, I repeat, during the dinner (!) and ask why they weren’t chosen for the bridal party. * shakes head*
As if it’s not awkward enough to ask that question in the first place, to do it during the actual night is simply rude.
Another one of my girlfriends had her new mother-in-law audibly bad-mouth her. As if that isn’t devastating enough to hear on the night of your wedding, she proceeded to talk to as many guests as she could, spreading her venom, until someone finally spoke up and told her it was not the time or place for her opinions.
In case that’s not cringe-worthy enough, yet another one of my girlfriends has had to deal with an out of control sister-in-law who at first refused to attend the wedding, blaming the bride for ruining her relationship with her brother, which I can assure you was not the case.
And while it killed her inside to suck it up and be polite to this certifiable woman, she asked her as nicely as she could to please come to the wedding as it would mean a lot, not only to her brother, but also to her as her future sister-in-law.
While I’m not sure what these guests were trying to accomplish in attempting to make themselves feel better by making the newlyweds feel bad, there is a way to deal with the discomfort.
Keepin’ It Real
If you are faced with a situation where one of your guests is calling you out or speaking poorly about you it might be best to handle it with sheer honesty.
Simply explain to your guest who is questioning any decision you had made for the day that while you are not willing to discuss it right then and there, you would be more than happy to sit down and have a talk at another date. As long as you keep a smile on your face, even if it is a forced one, this should hopefully appease your guest and keep their emotions at bay. For the time being. Hopefully.
If however, you are faced with a situation where one of your guests is speaking negatively about you or your husband it might be best to approach them calmly, and privately, and ask them to just keep their opinions to themselves for the night.
That way you aren’t behaving in a combative way, instead you are rationally speaking to them in a calm voice with a fake smile on your face asking them to just cool it for the night. If they have something to say, they can say it at another time, or leave. It’s up to them.
While each and every drama-fueled situation is horribly awkward, and makes me sweat just thinking of it, it is an unfortunate reality for some couples.
And while it’s ridiculously annoying to have to deal with drama on your own wedding day, if you handle it with grace, class, and ultimately ignore the person as much as possible, you should be able to get on with your day and continue to celebrate marrying the love of your life.
And if all else fails, grab another glass of champagne and hit the dance floor.